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  • Kati
      Make a comment Posted 26 Nov, 2018, 10:45
    Kati I really like this guy but he asked another girl out a few years back and apparently got his heart broken. He is very shy and so am I. He recently started coming out of his shell. He is my age and I can't even get up enough courage to talk to him and I think he is currently trying to get into a long distance relationship with another girl. What do I do? I have very little courage now due to previous bullying and I don't want to mess this up as I have to be in the same class with him for the next few years of my life and there are only 15 kids moving into my grade.
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi Kati, I completely get the situation you're in! My advice is to park the idea of a romance - just for the moment! - and focus on developing a friendship with this guy. You really need to start talking to him and get to know each other better. I know you're saying you're struggling to talk to him right now, but that could because of the 'romantic' expectation, which can add a whole lotta stress and pressure!! If you try and think of him as just another guy in your grade who you should interact with on a regular basis, it might make it a bit easier. Once you start talking and see how much you have in common and how well you get along, you'll know for sure if there's a spark of romance there - or if you're destined to just be friends - either way, you can't lose! Just ask him about what music and movies he likes, what sport, what he does on his weekend, etc - it'll get easier once you start. Good luck! LGx
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  • Hihowareu
      Make a comment Posted 05 Nov, 2018, 06:41
    Hihowareu I like this guy and he is adorable his smile literally lights up the room and he is legit like a puppy he is so kind and the sweetest person I know but I don’t know if it’s okay for me to date him and I really want to, I know for a fact nothing sexual would happen, but idk if the relationship is legal??? I am 15 and he is 19 i’ve read a lot but idk if I can trust the internet so I kinda want some opinions? He works next to my work, so I know he has a job (my friend works with him) we are sometimes working the same days so I go see him he’s so funny and kind, I know he would be a good person, he has finished school so he has graduated from high school but I’m not sure what he’s up to next. Please help would be great xx p.s I live in Nsw Newcastle if you could help with laws etc
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there Hihowareu, here's the link to consent ages by state. Consent means having the legal capacity to say yes to sexual intercourse - and you'll see in most states, the age is 16. If you're not engaging in sexual activity, then the relationship is fine - but know that if you cross that line, he could be an awful lot of trouble. LGx
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  • Bubbles2003
      Make a comment Posted 28 Oct, 2018, 10:53
    Bubbles2003 Hey, so I'm a 15 year old girl. Ive never had a boyfriend before and I haven't kissed anyone either. I always feel so much pressure when I'm around my friends to do stuff with guys because they have all done stuff and I haven't. Anyways, about 2 months ago I started going to the gym with a friend. At our first time there I noticed a guy who I thought was pretty attractive but I never really payed much attention to him. Ive been going to the gym every day since then and see him there a couple times but ive never really been very interested in him. About 2 weeks ago I went to the gym one day by myself and I noticed him, I don't know what happened but this time when I saw him something changed and I was suddenly 10 times more attracted to him. I told my gym friend that I thought he was really hot ahaha. So basically after that night of seeing him I couldn't stop thinking about him and I was so excited to see him the next day at the gym. The next day we made so much eye contact with eachother and when I had to leave the gym he saw me at the front desk getting my card and he was all the way at the back of the gym and was watching and staring at me for like 5 seconds until I turned around and had to leave. Everyday since then we always look at eachother at the gym and I cant stop thinking about him. Last week he knew I was with a friend at the gym and my friend was leaving and he saw her leaving and he started looking for me because he knew she was my friend but I wasn't with her and I think he thought that I had left then he scanned the whole gym looking for me and then he found me and calmed down. Theres also been a couple times where I will be on a machine and then he will come to one next to me or some other times when he is with friends at the drink fountain and I came around the corner and made really awkward eye contact with him haha. So I may be reading this wrong or assuming things but by the way he has been looking at me the past 2 weeks I'm getting a sense that he may be interested in me. Although, there are 2 problems. The first issue which isn't really that major is he is an older guy, he dosent look over 20. Maybe 18 or 19. But I'm scared that I'm too young for him :( And my second issue is today I went to the gym and he was there again. I was on a machine and older girl was next to me (early-mid 20s). I saw the guy walking past me but he decided to go through the machines so he was able to walk in front of me so I could see him anyways when he walked past we made lots of eye contact and I thought he was going to the drink fountains but he started talking to the girl who was on the machine next to me and shook her hand, they spoke for about 5 minutes, I couldn't really hear what they were talking about and then he left. So I don't know what to do or what to think now, I thought he was interested in me but then he spoke to this girl? I'm really sad because he was giving me signs that he was interested in me. I dont know if he was talking to the girl romantically, maybe they have mutual friends I'm not sure. But I have seen that girl at the gym before and ive never seen them talk or anything, I just don't get why he had to go talk to her while she was next to me? he could have done it when I was at a different part of the gym, but he decided to do it right next to me? Or am I reading this situation wrong? Please help I really like this guy. Ive seen him everyday for the past 2 weeks at the gym because we both go at the same time and every time we are both there we always make so much eye contact. And I just don't know what to think now because he approached this girl. (Sorry for this being so long) Thank you xx
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there Bubbles2003, your question has popped up several times, so I'll just respond to this one of that's okay? So, I know you don't think the age difference is a problem, but it probably is. The first issue is that although the age difference might only be 3 years,(or though you say it could be as much as 5) his expectations of a physical relationship may be very different to yours. Based on your earlier comments, I suspect you won't be comfortable with that - but let's suppose for a minute you are, there's another problem - the law. In most states of Australia, you have to be 16 to give consent. Which brings me to the earlier points in your post - I know your friends say they have 'done stuff' but it is often exaggerated. Some girls have a boyfriend at 12 and some have their first boyfriend at 30 - there is no right or wrong - it simply depends when you meet someone you have a connection with. So don't worry about what others are doing - just be true to yourself. So - what to do about the guy at the gym? I suspect he knows you're young so isn't approaching you. That said, there is absolutely no reason why you can't enjoy the butterflies and thrill you get seeing him there. Just stay safe, never do anything you don't feel ready for - ever!! - and good luck! LGx
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  • e40543
      Make a comment Posted 04 Oct, 2018, 11:57
    e40543 Hi, so my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 10 months now, he's 15 turning 16 and I've just recently turned 16. I'm not entirely sure how this forum works, but I really need help because I'm afraid that I may lose him. As we both have part-time jobs and are flustered by school work, it does get stressful and it is hard to find a time to go out with each other. We do attend the same school and have classes together, however, we don't get the chance to hang out much then because our friends always drag us away from each other. He gets upset by this because we do only go out every couple of weeks or so, and even during the holidays, we're only able to find time 3 or 4 times. I mean its fair for him to get upset, but at the same time its also important that we find time to hang out with our friends as well, yet in saying so at times I do believe neither of our friends respect our relationship because they tend to speak poorly of one of us while the other one is present. Anyways, because of the stress of not being able to go out I guess in a way it takes a toll on our relationship, because we see that our friends in relationships have so much more 'freedom' as they are able to go out constantly and seem to have little-to-no restrictions with what they're able to do. I come from a broken home, so I can't exactly invite him over as there's constant argument so I don't want to put him through the stress of home that I go through. I do get the chance to go to his house, and his family are so lovely, and supportive as they understand my home life and are always willing to help me. Anyways, I feel as if we often get quite jealous over other relationships, as we haven't had the chance to sleep over since his mum is afraid of me getting pregnant, yet he is fully aware that I am wanting to wait until marriage so that won't be happening. But I mean I guess what I'm saying is the fact that we can't do things that we see others doing, hurts both him and me. Whenever we go on dates we tend to do the same thing over and over again, get lunch, see a movie, spend time at his house, have dinner with his family, I go home, so it can get boring, and he feels the same. We both want to do go out on different dates and plan new things with each other, but something inconvenient tends to occur so we have to resort to the same thing. We planned to go bowling, I broke my wrist in soccer, we wanted to go mini golfing, I caught the flu and wasn't able to go out for two weeks, we wanted to go ice skating, he had an incident cycling and injured his leg, etc. As we're both only young we don't know how to keep things working when they get tough, as this is both of our first relationships. We do have fun with each other, and we do love each other, but doing the same thing over and over again gets boring which means at times we both feel as if we're losing our connection. In saying so, we only feel this when we just repeat the same date, when it's just me and him at his house doing homework together, or just mucking around watching movies together it feels almost like magic and we love every moment about it. I love him I really do, but I'm just so scared that because of all of this stress from not being able to go out much, and the repition of the same date that we're going to lose eachother because we aren't too sure what to do. Please help!!
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there @40543, you've posted your question twice (I do that a lot!!) so I'll just answer this one as they look to be the same. It sounds like you two have a great relationship, but there are clearly a few issues. The first one that jumps out at me is your friends. You say they drag you away from each other and also don't respect your relationship. That may be, but I think it's up to you two to prioritise each other. The fact that you allow yourselves to be shuffled off by your friends just reinforces to them that it's okay - so maybe make it clear that it's not and that should resolve that issue. The next issue is the time you spend together. The main part of this should be enjoying each others company which it seems you do - but you've obviously keen to share more experiences. It sounds like you've given this some good thought and had ideas - so that's great. Just know it doesn't always have to cost much money - play a board game, go to the local pool, pack a picnic in a backpack and ride your bikes somewhere, look up self-guided walks in your area and discover all sorts of things you didn't know - together! Overall, I think your relationship sounds great and your jealousy of other relationships will be overcome if you both decide to prioritise each other. Good luck! LGx
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  • jhart7979
      Make a comment Posted 25 Sep, 2018, 12:19
    jhart7979 So a while ago I started talking to my friend's bf on Socail Media and he was really nice and i started to like him a lot and he liked me back and then I said it's wrong cause he was still going out with my friend but he said he couldn't but then we ended up going out. Then he broke up with her and he we were actually goign out for a week. then i had my friend (the same one that as before) text me and say that one of her friends have a thing with her ex and i thought she was talking about me but it wasn't. So I ended up telling my friend about her ex cheating on her with me and then she said that he was cheating on me with one of her friends so I broke up with him. But the Main thing is that my friend absolutely hates me now cause her ex was cheating on her with me and honestly it is my fault for doing it and its not like I didn't expect her to be upset with me but now I feel like total shit and a bitch for whdidI ddi and now I dont know what to do please help !!!!!!!!!!
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi jhar7979, I see you posted three times - probably by mistake as I often do! - So I'll just answer on this one. Okay - so first up, you have great self-awareness which is a good thing - you are quite clear on how you've made your friend feel and are taking full responsibility for that which is very mature. So, I'd suggest you tell her exactly what you've told me. Frankly, you've both been duped by this guy, however, I can understand why she's not happy with you. But if you have a totally honest conversations making no excuses and taking responsibility for what you did, it would be hard for her not to forgive you. That's the thing about honesty -it can be very disarming. Good luck - I hope you get the chance to tell her what you're thinking and that she shows the same level of maturity and forgives you. LGx
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  • Liza05
      Make a comment Posted 17 Sep, 2018, 01:36
    Liza05 Hi, now I’ve been holding this is for way too long. I’m probably bi, I think so. Anyway, there’s this girl I like, she’s one of my friends tho. We’ve definitely flirted but I want to go further, spend time with her in a ‘non-friend’ way. More of a ‘gf’ way. How can I tell her? I really want to but I don’t have any idea how. Please! I really need some advice. Thank you so much xx
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there Liza05! Personally, I'm not crazy for labels - I think we are all just what we are and if you feel attracted to someone, anyone, well how fabulous! But - having said that, I think the best way into this conversation with your friend is to talk about the kind of people you're attracted to. Ask her what kind of people she finds herself drawn to? That should then give you the opportunity to say that you're attracted to girls and guys, which also helps move the conversation in the right direction. If she feels the same way, that is the perfect opportunity for her to share it with you! Good luck - I hope it goes the way you hope it does. LGx
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  • Ohxly
      Make a comment Posted 17 Sep, 2018, 01:23
    Ohxly I am seriously really desperate at this point? Alright here is my dilemma I've recently shifted countries and this is my first ever fully coed school ? And this is my last year at highschool aka jr college and Its not like i never hung out with boys before its just that I never was SURROUNDED by boys I had my brothers pals roughly the same age as me and they were rowdy and always liked being with me? So for the longest I only saw boys as friends and frankly Im not gonna lie I never trully felt anyform of affection? Anywho now at this school theres this awfully adorable boy and he is sorta very sweet and clumsy and he asks the most stupidest question but we all know he is serious about it and he is actually trying to learn something anywho im an a class introvert i talk little with my classmates and i am openly more friendly with girls and boys from another section and see this boy (lets call him M) is from my class and he was the first few to talk to me and over time he would make up silly nicknames for my name and always come to me to talk about the randomest stuff? And yes yes I do like him like alot bc on top all that sweetness he plays football and its so lovely to see him play so passionately anyway I ended up being closer friends with another boy lets call him T and with time me, a friend of mine and T would go to lunch and T and I would have Alot of silly debates and laughs but then thats all we ever did nothing more than that But at some point it was obvious but M kept interfering in T and I's conversations? He would want to talk to me about projects at lunch and ask T to move aside? And stuff and maybe others noticed but nobody said anything anyway with time I realised M would either drag T away from me or drag me away from T and it was odd but here is where i messed up a few months ago I was in a conversation with M and his friend and he said "oh then u might think T is cute isnt he?" and I might have exploded? I got angry bc i liked the guy who had this stupid assumption that i liked someone else? And i did sorta correct him very angrily bc i was done with people constantly judging a friendship and it hurt more bc i liked this dude who assumed i liked someone else but since then M doesnt really talk to me he avoids me and his friend told me that he was still upset with the way i treated him and I tried to talk to him by callingout his name but he packed his bag up hid his shy smile and walked off without a word and as darn cute that was it was also confusing? I want to apologise to him bc i was harsh but he always has his guy friends around and rumours spread fast around school and I really dont know what to do? Does he like me or is this all in my head? Bc for the longest he would playfully tease me, borrow stuff only from me, smile at me in the hallways, and I feel like even after he stopped talking to me he wanted to show me he was mad so he would go around wantedly curving around me when im standing a little too close, or asking even the girl beside me for a pencil BUT NO NOT ME and all of a sudden he doesnt care about T anymore and even asked his friend and his brother (who talks to me) to not talk to me untill he does? I also feel like he would wantedly bring up opportunities where we end up with a potential set up where we can talk but then im too shy and I dont take it bc idk what to say all of a sudden and uhhh i dont get it but I really like him and Idk if its the same with him..Do you please have any advice?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there Ohxly! Gosh - that is a tale. I'm sorry to say that I think M is hurt by the incident and has given up on you :(  It's why he's now not bothering himself about T. I know you're shy, but if you want to resolve this situation, you are going to have to talk to him and apologise - quickly. Perhaps let him know there's something important you'd like to tell him and make sure it's face to face - and then just be totally honest. Tell him that it wasn't your intent to push him away and that in fact, you were reacting to the fact that he thought you liked someone more than him! You need to apologise and ask if you can please go back to being friends - I think expecting more at this stage is probably unrealistic. It may take him a while to forgive you and sadly - it may never happen, but at least you'll know you did your best to fix the situation. Good luck - I hope he listens and is understanding. LGx
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  • KiwiGirlHelp
      Make a comment Posted 17 Sep, 2018, 12:25
    KiwiGirlHelp My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 months but have been very good friends since late February this year which was when we started talking and immediately connected. I still haven't told my parents that I'm in a relationship though. I'm not very close with my parents and am really nervous to tell them because I have no clue how they'll react. I'm 18 so personally, I don't think it should be a huge deal but I know what my mum is like and am pretty sure she'll make it out to be a bigger deal than it is. I have never been in a relationship before which obviously adds to my nerves. My mum met him back in June for my birthday and said he was very polite but she has never known anything about me liking him or anything, she just knows we're friends. I don't mention him at home either. I just don't really know how to go about telling her but I know I need to because I'm always so scared she'll catch me with him when I'm on a date with him (I don't tell her when I'm with him).
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there KiwiGirlHelp, this isn't an unusual issue. Like anything new, we often feel nervous and awkward saying it aloud. The fact your mum has already met him is a good start. Would you invite him over to hang out? You could also ask if you can have a friend over and when it's him, I think she'll work things out! If that feels intense, maybe ask a couple of other friends as well - just to watch a movie. That way, he can meet your mum again and hopefully everyone will start to feel more comfortable. The last option is to just come right out and tell her. If you decided to that, my tip is doing it while you're in the car and both looking ahead - sounds odd but really does take the confrontation out of a conversation when you're not looking at each other. Good luck! LGx
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  • md15
      Make a comment Posted 05 Aug, 2018, 02:34
    md15 So. There was that girl. We ve been friends - really good friends for a couple of years but then she started to act weird.For instance dhe didnt wanna talk to me she was acting like i was invisible. Then she started to upload things about me on her instagram stories and i asked what happened she explained herself and for a month we were fine. We were besties again but when something really bad happend she decided to brake my hand and from that day we stop talking to eachother. I was fine and i am fine but she is bithering me for example she calls me with an uknown number and she is like ITS A PRANK (like a 5yo) What should I do? I want her to stop bothering me!
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Wow md15, you right - that is very odd behaviour. Just know that it's probably NOT about you. There'll be things going on with her that you might not know anything about that are causing this erractic behaviour. It seems like you did the right thing and tried to resolve  the issue - and all was good, but now you've come to accept that the friendship is over. (I'm really hoping the hand breaking was an accident....). I think in this situation it's not unreasonable to ask her to please stop calling and texting and to block her number. If it keeps going, you need to talk to a trusted adult at home or school and ask them to help you in this situation. Good luck! LGx
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  • embo
      Make a comment Posted 22 Jul, 2018, 09:40
    embo so my bf and me have been friend sicne year 6 (we are year 8 now) anyway now she being sad one minute grumpy the next and slaping me for no reson at all the next i do not know what to do it dose not help that she is dyslexisc so she finds school work hared when she's ina good mood i help her but i do not know what to do when she mad please help me Embo
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there Embo, that doesn't sound like any fun at all :( I think your friend is frustrated - as you say, with her learning, but hormones might also be messing with her moods. It sounds like you're a great friend - so the best thing to do is talk to her honestly - tell her you don't know what to do when she's in a bad mood, ask her how you can help when she's feeling down or frustrated - and to please not to slap you (that's not okay). Maybe ask if she wants to come over and you can study together? Getting her outside the school environment could help her feel less stress. She's lucky she has a great friend like you! LGx
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  • adrianna0804
      1 comment Posted 17 May, 2018, 02:06
    adrianna0804 so there is this boy I have liked for a little more than a year now and I have liked him A LOT but he has used me and been really rude to me but I keep going back. he is also in the grade above me and he pretty much told my friend he likes me but would never date me because I am younger than him and "thats embarrassing". I have been trying to convince myself I don't like him anymore but I keep thinking about him still and he keeps talking to me and I get butterflies when I see him or hear his name. there is another boy I think I like but he is also a grade above me but he isn't really like that so he would probably date me still. I am really starting to like him but I don't talk to him a lot and he doesn't use social media a lot so I don't really have any way to talk to him because like I said, he is in the grade above me so I don't have any classes with him so I don't really have any ways to talk to him. I know if I don't talk to him I'm definitely going to start liking the other boy again because he keeps talking to me and I know if I like him again I'm just going to get heart broken again. I really REALLY want to talk to the boy I'm starting to like because he is so nice and he probably likes me too because everyone is saying they think he does and he always stares at me and always tries to be where I am. What should I do???
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there adrianna0804! It looks like you've posted your question a few times (it happens!) so I'll just answer this one. Let's start with the first boy; he doesn't sound like a keeper. He's making excuses and I get you have feelings - which you're free to enjoy! - but his behaviour towards you isn't encouraging. My advice regarding him is to keep chatting if you want to, but try and see him as a bit of a 'crush' that's not going anywhere. Now - boy number two! He sounds great and yes, based on what you've said I think he likes you! You need to find reasons to talk to him - help with homework? A question about sport or some TV show? Anything! Ask if you can text him a question and get his number - then keep the conversation going - I suspect you're a bit of a natural at that! Good luck, LGx
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  • Gharial100
      Make a comment Posted 06 May, 2018, 11:58
    Gharial100 So there’s this guy who I think I like because I wanna talk to him and be around him but when I do I can’t look him in the eye. I don’t wanna ask him out because I’ve never had a bf so idk what I’d do when hanging out with him. And it’d be really awkward if he rejected me because he’s in my orchestra. And he doesn’t talk to me much but when he does we get along really well and have a lot in common. I really need help because I have no idea what to do. I’m also not sure if I like him or not. I also feel kinda jealous when I see other girls talking to him, especially because they talk to him more than I do.
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hello Gharia100! So, reading this I'm left in no doubt that you like him! Not being able to look him in the eye is a big clue - it means you feel slightly shy or awkward around him, because of how you feel - which is very usual! As you feel more confident and relaxed, that should change. The problem here, as I see it, is not whether or not you like him, (I think we know the answer to that!) but what to do about it. I agree there's no need to ask him out, but I do think you'll need to make an effort to talk to him more - at any chance you get. Ask him about what music he likes, what he got up to on the weekend - use it as an opportunity to get to know him better and, it shows you're interested in him. The more you talk and get to know each other, the more you'll discover if you have a connection that's more than a friendship and then, well, you can take it from there! Good luck!! LGx
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  • Jera
      Make a comment Posted 18 Apr, 2018, 09:06
    Jera There is this boy I like named Zach and we started talking and I started to fall in love. Then he asked me out and i said yes. Then one day I told him I had trust issues and he asked me if I trusted him and I said "for the most part I do" then he took me out of his bio and now he counts me as one of the guys, he doesn't give me good morning text and he doesn't call me baby.. he said he likes me but he is mad. this has been going on for about a week and I hate it. cause I put my life on pause for him. I wanted to say I was in love with him but idk anymore. and I can't get over him. and I want this to work out. I think about him every second of the day. I cry over him because I truly feel like I am in love. Help me please!!
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Gosh Jera, that's a sad story. It sounds like he has a couple of issues as he's punishing you for being honest. There's something about not being completely trusted that he finds very uncomfortable - because it seems like you've hit a nerve. The only way to bring this situation to a close - one way or the other - is to talk to him. It sounds like he's not so keen to do that just now, but let him know you'd like to have a conversation - just to clear things up. Explain to him that your trust issue isn't about him specifically, but an issue generally and that you're working on it (I assume that you are?) and gently ask him why he's so uncomfortable with that. You'll intuitively know from how this conversation pans out as to whether you have a future together or if it's time to let it go. Good luck - I hope you get the response you're after! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 04 Apr, 2018, 09:08
    Anonymous user I'm going overseas on a school trip next month and a bunch of my friends, my crush, my dad and some other parents are going. Typically I'm fairly obvious around my crush and show how I feel even though he doesn't feel the same way as far as I know. This worries me because I feel like I'll act rather awkwardly around him due to my dad going on the trip too. So I'm not sure whether to act how I usually do and hope my dad doesn't notice or try to hide how I feel about my crush
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi Anon, you sound like the kind of girl who wears who heart on her sleeve - meaning you can't help but show people how you feel! It's not a bad trait at all. If you are that type of girl, then trying to modify you're behaviour or changing how you'd normally act probably won't work. My advice is to be aware your Dad is there, and that alone should help how obvious or discreet you think you need to be around your crush. However, the one thing I'd say is don't let it get in the way of this amazing opportunity - just relax, be yourself and have faith that things will turn out fine! Good luck, LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 04 Apr, 2018, 09:00
    Anonymous user I'm nearly 18 and I've liked one of my guy friends for a little over two years now and I'm tempted to say I'm in love with him (not that I would say that to him anytime soon). I told him how I liked him a little over 6 months ago now and he said that he didn't want to ruin our friendship or put time into a relationship. He never specifically said how he felt about me though, pretty sure he doesn't like me but I can't help wondering about what if he does like me and simply doesn't want to date at this stage. I've been trying to move on and get over him but it has been a real struggle for me. I keep thinking about all the what-ifs because I really do like him and I want to be with him. I'd like some advice as to what to do about the whole situation
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Gee Anon - that's tricky, isn't it? To be honest, I think he made himself clear six months ago, and I suspect he knows you still like him romantically. I think he does like you - he's you're friend! - but I"m not sure he feels that it's more than that :( If you want closure, you could ask if he can ever imagine the two of you dating at some stage in the future. By making it the future, it's hypothetical so safe. If he says no, then you can be sure he sees you as a friend only, if he says maybe or yes, well, then maybe there is a possibility. He sounds like a nice guy and tried to let you down gently last time, so if he does say maybe - see if you can judge if that really is a maybe or a soft no. Good luck - I hope you get the answer you want. LGx
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  • Kakashi27
      Make a comment Posted 04 Apr, 2018, 08:30
    Kakashi27 Hey I just want someone to tell me how they see what I've been experiencing in their perspective. And maybe an advice on what I should do or how I should continue... basically like a diary that replies I guess�� Here it goes... It's the start of summer vacation here for me and I only have 1 more week to see this guy I like and do something about my feelings until next school year.. Through out the year he's given me stuff to overthink. I first noticed him because of his beautiful singing voice. He would look at me from across the room, hang out with my friends and initiate study sessions with me. He would say sorry shyly when he thinks he's not doing his best in our group projects and thank me for all my efforts. He's made a few comments about wanting to stay longer or sleeping over at my house just 'cause he didnt have anything else to do. Freeing his schedule just to come hang with me and my guy friends. Giving heart reactions on my social media updates. And I want to believe that he likes me but I'm scared that I only keep seeing this actions because I want to think that he likes me. He was fairly popular with girls (and gays) at school, and he told me it annoyed him. He didn't like it when they confessed. He wanted to be the one to confess to someone he liked. And that made me scared to tell MY feelings. I want to stop liking him tbh. But that wasn't gonna happen until I hear a rejection from him. But at the same time I didn't want to lose the little things we did that probably meant more to me than him. I'm turning 18 in May and I invited him along with a few of my friends. I hope I clear this stuff out before that time. I want to be able to look at him in the eye without looking like I'm always hiding something. He treats me a little bit differently too. To other girls he doesn't seem to care much how he acted but to me it was always awkward at first and we can barely hold eye contact unless no one else was around. He's a nice person too, which is probably why he's nice to me. But that's how I see it... I want to know what other people think about this. I'm not planning on confessing after he opened up to me about the subject anyways... I just want to understand his actions. Thank you!!
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    Hi Kakashi27, from what you've said, I wonder if he knows you like him but is trying to avoid the declaration? As you say, if he's has a few, he may find it uncomfortable and detrimental to friendships. That aside, I always think it's better to show someone you like them - and it sounds like you already doing that to some degree. Just talk to him as much as you can, find out everything about him - what music he likes, his family, his hopes and ambitions for the future, what he believes happiness is, what his ideal partner would be like - all that stuff! Not only does it show him you're interested in him as a person, but it also uncovers the points of connection. It will help both of you determine if you're destined to be great friends or if there is a spark of romance that you both want to pursue. I know there's not much time, but give it your best shot before school breaks up! Good luck, LGx
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  • Casual_Maggie
      Make a comment Posted 04 Apr, 2018, 12:26
    Casual_Maggie I like my old crush's bestfriend. let's call my crush C .I'm homeschooled and so are they, we have a mutual science class every week (for homeschoolers) and that's the only time I see C. we talk on snapchat a lot, and sometimes I use the filters and he calls the snaps cute. I think he likes me but. there is a problem. I'm 13 and he's 15.... He also lives like 40 minutes away. I'm now good friends with my old crush and sometimes he teases me about C. Thats a sign right? I know he might be too old for me but if i'm 33 and he's 35 its nothing. I think i'm just denying it so it doesn't become a problem. What do I do?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there Casual_Maggie, you are absolutely right - as you get older and more mature, the age gap feels a lot less. And yes, it does sound like he likes you and the fact you're snap chatting is fantastic - it means you're talking and getting to know each other and obviously enjoy each others company. My advice is just carry on as you are - chatting and having fun and maybe getting a few butterflies! There is the obstacle of him being 40 minutes away, but in some ways, it also makes the relationship 'safe' in terms of any physical expectations (even holding hands or hugging) which isn't always a bad thing! So just be in the moment, enjoy what's happening and see where it goes. Good luck! LGx
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  • DeletedProfile
      Make a comment Posted 26 Mar, 2018, 05:41
    DeletedProfile how can i become a libra girl expert
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there iarizona71, thanks for your messages. I've actually just removed a couple of your posts as I'm afraid you can't include personal contact details - we can't guarantee your safety or that of other site users so we just have to have a rule to not share personal information. I love your enthusiasm and desire to help others, but I'm afraid there isn't an opportunity to become an expert here. Are you still at school? Can I suggest you look at studying psychology when you finish and that should take you into a job where you can help others with their problems - it's a great thing to do and I wish you the best for it! LGx
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  • 12yrold22
      Make a comment Posted 14 Mar, 2018, 10:20
    12yrold22 does it hurt getting your period?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi 12yrold22 - I tried to move your question over to LibraGirl Nurse but I see it didn't go. Getting your period shouldn't hurt but for a professional response, pop on over to the LGNurse on the periods section and she'll get back to you pronto! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 08 Mar, 2018, 06:24
    Anonymous user How can you tell is someone is a playboy?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi anon, that's a great question! Without evidence, it can be hard to know. Some guys are just out-and-out super friendly with all girls - even a bit flirty - and yet, would never cross the line. Other guys are quiet and seem shy - and yet are players. However, having said that, female intuition is usually pretty good - so without being paranoid, if you think a guy is a playboy, you're probably right! I hope that helps. LGx
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