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The Libra girl expert is here to answer any questions you might have in regards to your GFs and BFs. Whether it’s how to deal with a huge fight you’ve had with your BFF or how to tell your crush that you like him...ask away! Questions can be asked anonymously so ask whatever is on your mind – and remember no question is stupid! Before submitting your question check out the Frequently Asked Questions section to see if your question has already been answered.

 
 
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  • ClassyYoutubeTrash
      Make a comment Posted 15 Feb, 2018, 02:56
    ClassyYoutubeTrash So i need quick help. I have posted a message about this but i think i might ask here to. So on the 23 of feb i get to go to a waterpark but i will have my period and i rly wanna go... I cant wear tampons....so can i wear pads and everytime it gets wet i will change it....btw i will be fully submerged in water
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there ClassyYoutubeTrash - that's tricky! Pads contain something called Super Absorbent Polymers - and they are, well, super absorbent! They lock away moisture but when submerged, will 'fill up' and become quite bulky. Once they're full, they won't be able to absorb anything else - so not sure that plan is going to work. Can you give tampons another go? The main reason girls have difficulty is that they're nervous and tense their pelvic floor muscle making it extremely difficult to insert a tampon!! Try and relax - use a water-based lubricant like KY jelly - and see how you go. Another tip is to insert your finger first - so you know where the tampon is going and what angle you should be heading in. Try Libra's applicator tampon as they make getting it into the right spot easier for first-timers. If you absolutely can't use a tampon, maybe a liner and a snug pair of black bike shorts might be a better option? Still risky though.... Good luck! LGx
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  • Jera
      Make a comment Posted 05 Feb, 2018, 08:14
    Jera Ok, so this is my last letter about a boy. His name is Ben, and I have liked him for some time now we flirt so much, he always makes jokes. I could say my leg itches and he would say you want me to get it for you. But I never really thought anything of it. So I told my friend Reagan how I felt. Yesterday she has the audacity to walk up to him, luckily the bell rang before she could say anything. Later that day Ben texted her asking her what she was going to say before the bell rang. Reagan told him that someone in our Spanish class liked him. Of course, he was curious and asked who it was, So she told him it was me. So today I walk into class and I heard someone call my name, it was Ben he asked me why I didn't tell him. At the end of the day, I was walking with Reagan to the buses and she sees Ben and she yells his name. He walks over to us, as Im telling him that we are okay. Ben came up and Reagan says i will talk to him for you. So i left to make my bus
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hey Jera, sounds like your friend Reagan may have done you a favour! Although it can suddenly feel very awkward when someone knows you like them, in this case, I think Ben is really pleased! If you get a chance, just let him know you didn't ask Reagan to tell him and that you hadn't said anything as you weren't sure how he felt. Try not to run away when he wants to talk to you - yes, right now it seems super embarrassing - but it sounds like he feels very comfortable - lucky you!! Just hang in there and talk to him and eventually you too will  be comfortable - and you can take it from there!! Good luck, LGx
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  • Natalie360
      Make a comment Posted 23 Jan, 2018, 01:27
    Natalie360 So there is this boy that always compliments me and talks to me. Everyone says that he is a fu*kboy and I just don’t know what to believe
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there Natalie360, I'd suggest observing how he treats other girls - the same or different? If he compliments quite a few other girls then sorry to say, although I'm sure he likes you, it doesn't look like you've been singled out for his attention. However, if this does seem like exclusive treatment for you, then spend time with him when you can, talking. Get to know him and see if you have a connection. Better to take it slow than jump in and then realise you don't like him as much as you thought you did! Good luck, LGx
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  • Jera
      1 comment Posted 17 Jan, 2018, 02:55
    Jera Hey, so I am a sophomore in high school. And so far, I have been having a good year. If you have seen my previous letters, I don't really have the best of luck with relationships. So like always... There is this boy that I like, but he is like a fuc*boy he is very attractive and funny and he is a great person to be around if you want to have fun. But recently he has been walking with this one girl and he has his arm around her, and he isn't dating her so that's irritating asf. He kinda plays the bad boy card, he smokes weed and does that crazy stuff, but that doesn't bother, I kinda like that bad boy stuff. But getting back to the real reason I am here. He always stares at me and we talk all the time he also smiles at me all the time, we crack jokes together and it feels like when I'm getting closer, something just pull him farther away from me. We talk all the time on social media. I know that if I start to really like him, like hardcore that he would play me or it would slap me in my face. How do I know he is not treating me like those others girls he has messed with in the past. And Is just a friendship or could this be real!! But knowing me this is another player or another FAIL!!!
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there Jera, I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news but, I don't think this guy sounds like BF material at all. All the reasons you're attracted to him - his flirting (staring), confidence and intimacy with other girls, bad-boy attitude - are exactly the same reasons he wouldn't be a great bf. It's unrealistic to think those behaviours will suddenly stop. I suspect he treats most girls with a degree of intimacy - which we all love as it makes us feel special - but you're all feeling special! I'd be inclined to enjoy his company as a friend and unless he starts to display really clear interest in being in an exclusive relationship with you, friend-zone him!! Hang in there - you will someone who you'll have a genuine and mutual connection with - I just don't think it's this guy. LGx
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  • DeletedProfile
      Make a comment Posted 17 Jan, 2018, 02:47
    DeletedProfile I have been texting this boy I like for 2 months everyday accept like only two days in a row but constantly. When I text him he tells me good luck on things like on an dance concert and he says that he’s sorry that I’m sick. One day I was at my friends party and she sent him an picture of me and her and the next day he texted me Wowwwww I feel so bad that I couldn’t text u back...so do he like me as more or just an friend?? Also my friend was like you never have talked about an boy this much so....do he like me?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there DeletedProfile, (I hope you are still there!!) Certainly sounds like he does like you! I wouldn't read too much into him not texting for a couple of days - he may just have been busy with other stuff - and he apologised, so I think he's sincere. He's taken a real interest in you - like your dance concert - which is a great start to any relationship - friendship or romance. I think the best thing is to keep the conversation going. I'm assuming you're also taking an interest in what he's doing. Just use the time to find out more about him - what music he likes, TV, sport, music - jus everything! The more you chat, the clearer it will become that your relationship will be destined to be friends - or something more! Good luck - although from what you've said, I'm not sure you need it!!! LGx
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  • jhart7979
      Make a comment Posted 04 Jan, 2018, 04:03
    jhart7979 there is this boy that i have a major crush on for a yr and a bit at school and it feels like he sends signals sometimes like staring at me, making random convo, smiling and more and his friends say that he likes me but then he says that he doesn't like me but then he doesn't say that to my face but then there is signals and more and then i thought that over the holidays i would try to get over him cause my friends put an idea on to me that he doesn't like me so i thought that when i get back to school that if i still like him i would try to ask him out or somthing and if not then i would like try to forget about boys but then im not to sure about it plez give me your openon on my situation
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there jhart7979! Gosh, boys can be confusing!! From what you've said, I agree that he does like you. But I suspect he's just not ready to take it any further. Things may have changed over the holidays, but rather than ask him out, maybe try and spend more time talking to him so he feels more comfortable. Just be friendly and interested in him - ask lots of questions and get to know him more. Find out about what he got up to over the holidays, share what you did - just get talking!! As this progresses, you'll just know if he just wants to be friends or if he wants to step it up a bit or if he just needs a bit more time. Good luck - I hope it goes the way you want!! LGx
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  • Deep_Iris
      Make a comment Posted 04 Jan, 2018, 03:56
    Deep_Iris So, There's this guy at my school who I actually really like. All I know about him is his name. I've spoken to him like twice and it was like a 30 second conversation. I don't think he has instagram or anything like that so I can talk to him. So my best friends BF (lets call him "J") is friends with my crush and I asked J what my crushes name was. J told me and then started freaking out asking if I likes him. I told J I didn't. J's my only way of finding out more about him but I'm worried that if I ask him my chances will be ruined with my crush I have no experience with guys (except that one time when I was 4 and I got married) and I don't get to see him for another 4 weeks (school holidays) Also sorry if this is a bit confusing :D
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi Deep_Iris, so the fact he's at your school, and you know his name is a good start. If you see him around, just say 'Hi'. You know, the kind of 'hi' that doesn't even expect an answer. Smile and look him in the eye - keep walking. Once this becomes comfortable, extend it to a 'how are you?' - just keep stepping it up, bit by bit, as you feel confident and hopefully you're getting the right vibe back from him. The aim is to get to a point where you can have a conversation. Ask him lots of questions - what class he's just had, what sport he likes, what he did on the weekend - it gives you the chance to get to know him better and also lets him know you're interested in him as a person. Even if after this, you decide your not romantically interested, you'll have made anew friend and there's no downside to that! Good luck! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 26 Dec, 2017, 01:07
    Anonymous user There is this boy that I really like, and all of my friends and family say that he likes me too. We text sometimes, and he almost always puts a smiley face at the end of his messages. At a recent concert at my school my family said that he was looking at me the whole time, so much that they started giggling to each other! He always says hi to me, smiles whenever we see each other and sometimes we walk to and from classes together and talk, and have a good time. However recently he left me on read when I had asked him if he wanted to join me at the gym sometime and he kinda seems like he doesn't really try to continue the conversation in text. In person though he is a really sweet, kind, funny, fun and overall an amazing person to be around. I just really want to know how he feels about me so that I can decide how to continue with the relationship we have right now. I want to just be friends at least, and then maybe move on to something more, but I'm not sure how he feels.
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi anon, from everything you've said, I'm pretty sure he likes you! I wonder if the two things you mention - the gym and not being so responsive to text - is reading too much into it? May he was just busy or distracted by family or homework or something else. I think it might be that because you say he's the same in person. If he were also a bit stand-offish in person, then maybe the idea of getting close had become a bit awkward for him - which is not unusual - but doesn't seem to be the case in this situation. Just use the time you have with him to get to know him more - ask about what music he likes, TV, movies, sport - what he does on his weekends, about his family and interests. Not only will it bring you closer but it also lets him know you're interested in him as a person - friend or more! Your intuition will help you work out which as you get to know him more. Good luck! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 12 Dec, 2017, 05:30
    Anonymous user So me and this guy were basically a thing- we knew we liked each other- everyone knew we liked each other and you know, it was all going great. But then all of a sudden he went cold on me and replied to my messages coldly and avoided me at all costs. . I guess he kinda even acts more shy around me now as well. And now he's talking to this other girl and being all friendly with her. I just don't really get where that came from- we've liked each other for years- and I miss all that when we talked heaps even just as friends, he's a great guy. Like why would you just go cold and stop talking to someone?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi anon, that so sucks when things are going along swimmingly and then for no apparent reason, fall over :( It's probably not very comforting - but this happens a lot when someone suddenly becomes aware that things are 'close' and then panics. For many girls and guys, the rush when you realise you have a connection with someone is amazing - and they just can't get enough of your company. Then suddenly they realise this is deeper than they expected and are overcome with feelings of awkwardness and just want to remove themselves from the situation. This sounds like it might be what's happened with this guy. I'm afraid there's not much you can do other than to give him some space and time and keep being relaxed and friendly. Sometimes they get over it and start talking again. It's really a maturity thing and feeling 'ready' - so there's not much else you can do I'm afraid. Just know that it's NOT you!! Good luck, LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 12 Dec, 2017, 05:19
    Anonymous user There's a senior in my college. He looks perfect as such. I'm just a 1st year student. He looks handsome like hell and He also boards the same bus as I do. I'd really like to talk to him. I'm nervous whenever I thought of talkin' to him. I don't his name...I don't even know if he had noticed me. I just want to hangout with him. Could u guys help me out here? I don't know how to approach him since I haven't dated anyone before.
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi there anon - I think you've posted twice, so I'll just answer this one. Okay - so first up, you will need to be brave! When you see him, say 'hi' in a casual, friendly way and smile! Say it in a way that might not even expect a response. Keep that up for a while and when he is responding, move up to 'how are you?' or 'how's your day?' - again, keep it relaxed and like you barely expect him to reply. Gradually build on the conversation week to week and with a bit of luck, you'll be chatting away in no time. Ask questions that will help you get to know him better - and also indicate that you're interested in him! - ask what he did on the weekend, what music he likes, what TV, which is his favourite class. By getting to know him better, you're also likely to discover if he has a gf or not and if you are really romantically interested or if you've just made a new friend. Good luck! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 04 Dec, 2017, 02:07
    Anonymous user To cut a long story short, this guy at school was very flirty with me and we chatted constantly online- but were a bit awkward taking face to face. Everyone said he definitely liked me. (I really like him) We went on an overseas trip with school and we got really close and I really loved that. Now, since we've been back he's hardly talked to me, ignores my messages and avoids chatting to me at school. Why on earth! We're just friends! But all his friends tease him and me constantly so I don't know if this had any effect at all... I don't know what to think!
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi anon, gosh boys can send mixed messages! (Actually, so can girls now I think of it :) ). So what can happen - to anyone - is they like someone and things progress a bit, and then they get all shy and awkward so avoid the other person altogether, so they don't have that uncomfortable, unsettled feeling. The teasers aren't helping either because that just puts a focus on exactly what they're trying to avoid. So... I suggest you initially give him a little space - just a hi and a smile when you see him. After a week or two, try engaging him in conversation - just being friendly and casual. Read his response and you'll know if you should keep talking or give him some more space. Your objective here, is to try and help him feel relaxed and comfortable - not confronted and cornered! With a bit of time and space, he will hopefully feel calm and start talking again, and you can take things from there. Good luck! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 01 Dec, 2017, 04:03
    Anonymous user I had a boyfriend and he cheated on me by dating another girl and I still kind of have feelings for him but I don’t think he does. What should I do?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi anon, I wonder if you have feelings for him or feeling for the guy you thought he was before he cheated? That's not unusual and those two things can get mixed up so maybe give that some thought. The other thing to do is distract yourself with activities that make you happy - like music, craft, sport, reading, singing and even hanging out with those friends who make you feel good about being you! Good luck! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 27 Nov, 2017, 01:24
    Anonymous user Hi LGx Im back with the latest crush question of this school year lol I like this guy in my class and I'm having trouble with my friends and stuff. I mostly hang out with guys more than girls because I honestly find it hard to keep up with girl friends. So this guy I like used to sit in front of me and we would talk occasionally during class(He's a bit on the shy guy category btw). He would sometimes engage in conversations of me and my guy friends who are all sat around me. I dont know how or when it started but he kind of just started to avoid us or me? I dont know. He sits at the back of the class now and we dont talk that much anymore. Recently I caught him staring at me with no emotions in his face whatsoever and he held it so long I had to break the eye contact myself cuz I didnt want to get all red or something... then he helped me arrange chairs after class but he didnt talk much except when he laughed a little when I did something clumsy. I want to figure out if he likes me but is avoiding me because I had to many guy friends or he's just not interested in me at all?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi Anon, It's hard to say but I'm guessing he does like you. Sometimes people who are shy are a little bit freaked out when they realise they like someone so go out of their way to avoid them to avoid that awkward feeling when they're around them. The best thing to do is try and talk to him and make him feel comfortable - just be friendly and relaxed - treat him as a friend. You'll need to be the one to break the ice and start the conversation every time for now, but if you're up for doing that, I'm sure in a short amount of time he'll feel far more comfortable and things will start to improve. Good luck! LGx
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  • BabyHyena
      Make a comment Posted 27 Nov, 2017, 01:08
    BabyHyena My friends keep pronouncing my name wrong it didn't really bother me before but now it's really starting to annoy me I told them the way my name is pronounced and asked them to stop saying my name the way they did but they said that they didn't want to and that they were going to keep saying my name incorrectly. how can I get them to stop
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Gosh BabyHyena, can't friends be annoying?? It's probably because you have asked them to stop that they keep going. If you can stand it, I'd ignore them for a week or so and then ask them individually (by themselves - not as group - because that's when they're more likely to be silly) how they'd feel if everyone insisted on pronouncing their name incorrectly? Then let them know it's hurtful and could they please pronounced it correctly. If you speak to them one at a time and appeal to their sense of empathy, you're more likely to have success than as a group. Good luck! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 27 Nov, 2017, 01:01
    Anonymous user how do you know if you want to have sex
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi anon, if you need to ask the question, you're definitely not ready. If you're not sure, slightly uncertain or hesitating - you're not ready. We've all been gifted with amazing intuition - so when it feels right and you feel absoltely sure - then you'll know the time is right! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      1 comment Posted 16 Nov, 2017, 06:08
    Anonymous user I know this really doesn't fit underneath this category. But is masturbation wrong?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi anon, the simple answer is no, there is nothing wrong with masturbation. It's quite normal. LGx
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  • floyrh16
      1 comment Posted 16 Nov, 2017, 06:07
    floyrh16 I recently got a boyfriend and I really feel genuine about my feelings but... I'm only 14 and I know that is really young for a boyfriend. Anyway... he wants to take the situation sexually and I don't. I really like him but I'm afraid that he only likes me for my body and not me. What can I do?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi floyrh16, this is easy - say no! I'm not suggesting your feelings for him aren't genuine and it is difficult when you want to please him, but at the end of the day it's your body, and only you know when you're ready to do anything intimate. No one should ever - and I mean EVER - pressure you into doing anything you don't feel ready for. Remember too that once things have been 'done' they can't be 'undone' and you may not be feeling good about it afterwards.You'll absolutely know when you're ready, but in the meanwhile, you need to tell him that the answer is no and I'm afraid if he can't accept that, well, you'd have to ask if you really do want to continue in a relationship with him. Good luck, LGx
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  • brookec.
      Make a comment Posted 16 Nov, 2017, 05:58
    brookec. I am 12 and dating this guy(we have only gone out once). I don’t know how to tell my parents. He had told his but I don’t know if my parents are ok with it. People say just be honest but how do I bring it up?
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi brookec. - yes, honesty is the best policy but bringing it up can be awkward. Where did you go when you went out? Maybe that could be your lead-in, so "I went to (insert where you went) today." Hopefully your parents will pick up on the conversation and ask you who you went with - otherwise, just be brave and carry on with something like... 'Yeah - I went with this guy from my class/school. It was really fun hanging out with him and getting to know him a bit better. We might go out again sometime." Yes, it won't feel like the most relaxed conversation, but it'll be a start, and once it's out there, you'll feel so much better - I promise!! Good luck, LGx
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  • pony_girl
      Make a comment Posted 16 Nov, 2017, 05:50
    pony_girl My eleven year old younger sister is a thief and I don't know what to do anymore. She constantly steals my belongings (underwear, clothes, makeup, face products, money, stationary), my brother's things (just recently she's stolen $128 from him), my mum and dad's things, and my uncle and auntie's things (they live with us at the moment, and she steals things like their food which we aren't allowed to have). If she can't find what she's looking for immediately in our rooms, she rummages through our drawers/storage and searches until she finds it. It's no use hiding anything away because if she wants what we have she'll get it. She's so disrespectful to everyone - she's rude to family friends and relatives, to her own friends, to my brother and myself, and to my parents. Nobody in my family knows what to do about her anymore and I'm seriously at my wit's end with this entire situation. The only thing I can think of is calling the police on her to give her a scare and show her what happens to thieves. I just want to live in my house without having to be constantly on edge and hiding all my things. As much as I want to I just can't get along with her when she's always stealing from me and my family. Please help!
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi pony_girl, sounds like your sister has a serious problem. How does she respond when the family try to talk to her about it? I actually wonder if she needs counselling and help with her issue because you're right - it's not right that she isn't respectful of what belongs to others and you'd have to wonder why. It could be a compulsion that she has trouble managing but is afraid to say so. Either way, somethings up, so I'd suggest calling the Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 to talk to a trained counsellor there about the problem and how to approach your sister about getting some help. You might also suggest to your mum that she discusses it with your family GP or even the school counsellor. Good luck! LGx
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  • Anonymous user
      Make a comment Posted 08 Nov, 2017, 10:48
    Anonymous user Is there some way to know who likes you without asking them
  • Libra Girl Expert
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    Hi anon, you can sometimes tell by the way people act around you. So they may be more smiley or jokey or be doing crazy silly things to get you attention. Some can even take it too far and come across as a bit rude or aggressive - when they really like you!! Some will flirt - making extended eye contact, touching you when they're talking, flicking hair, etc. Sometimes though, people are very shy so being attracted someone  makes them feel even more awkward, and they can withdraw even further. So in a word - tricky. Good luck though! LGx
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